full lace with a keyhole back
As I said in the beginning some of Dress Anecdote won’t be an anecdote. This is one of them. This is all about budget, yes that icky word. That icky word that can ruin your hunt for the perfect dress. The word that should be defined as a love, hate relationship. This is also about shopping around and trying on dresses.
This past week I had two brides come in and a mother come in looking for her daughter, all wanting a full lace gown. No biggie, lace is in and we’ve got plenty of gowns with lace. Should be a piece of cake right? Wrong. When you ask them what their budget is and they say “around $700” or “about $500” you know that the appointment isn’t going to go well. Lace is expensive, our full lace dresses are about a thousand dollars, minimum.
So not only do I have to try and find a gown based on the brides description, I have to find one in her budget with a material that is known for being expensive. Later, I have to be the one to tell her that we don’t have what she is looking for in her budget, and I don’t want to be the bad guy. Here is the tip: research!
Go online and check the prices of different dresses and take note of the fabric. If you want a lace dress for under $1000, take the time to search but be realistic with your expectations. It’s no fun to find out that you can’t get your dream dress because of the price, or trying on dresses that are out of your price range and falling in love with them.
Which leads into another part of the budget! Don’t EVER, EVER, EVER try on a dress that is out of your budget! EVER! I can not stress this enough! One of the brides that I mentioned earlier was just trying on dresses to see which styles flattered her. She pulled a dress out of her budget (about double, the dress was about $1800) and I warned her and told her that it was over double her budget. She said it was ok, that she was just trying them on. And what do I do? I can’t say “no, you can’t try on the dress.” I pull the dress and place it in her dressing room, after all, I did warn her.
So here we go, trying on dresses, me purposefully saving that double budget dress for the very last, praying to the bridal gods that she falls in love with a dress closer to her budget. She falls for this one dress and we bring out her mother’s veil that she is wearing and it matches and the dress is only a little out of budget. Yes, we might be able to avoid the break the bank dress! But no, she wants to try it on… so I get it out of the bag and tell her the price again and tell her the designer and information about it as I’m getting ready to put it on her, I put it on her and what does she do?
She breaks out into this huge grin. I haven’t even buttoned/zipped (it had a keyhole back and buttons to hide the zipper) the dress up and she’s in love with it. We go out, we show mom, bride can’t stop smiling, mom asks the price, and it all goes down hill. The bride asks me how much she would have to put down to get the dress, I tell her the stores policy for layaway and have to slip a piece of paper to her with the figures on the fly so her mom doesn’t see because the bride is going to talk to her mom and see about getting it.
I’ll tell you one thing, that mom is not going to shell out over double the budget for a dress, especially since the bride might be getting her grandmother to combine her (the brides) mom’s wedding dress and the grandmother’s wedding dress. So it was a nightmare, needless to say.
But a lesson to every bride, NEVER TRY OUT OF YOUR BUDGET! If you fall in love with that dress you will always remember that dress and it won’t compare to the dresses in your budget and you will feel like you are “settling” for a dress instead of finding the dress.